Thoughts From 5ft Above The Ground

The Hockey Hall of Fame FINALLY Gets It Right!

                                            

I am a Canadian woman and I love, love, love hockey.  That’s right, I am a stereotype of Canada come to life.  And I’m proud of it.

There are so many amazing things about hockey…where to start?

I have met so many great friends throughout my years playing hockey.  There’s an instant bond between teammates- I think it comes from meshing as a team on the ice, hanging out before/after the games and sharing battle stories of the game.

To preface my next comment, I must state that I am small, very small.  In fact, I am 5 feet exactly.  This has lead to many jokes on behalf of my brothers, bf and friends for my entire life. However, when I put on my equipment, uniform and skates…I feel like I ‘mega-morph’...Even though, everyone else on the ice does, too! J 

And then, I walk from the dressing room to the ice pad and wait for the Zamboni to finish.  It’s hard to explain the mixture of excitement, calm and happiness that comes over me at this point.  It could be the championship or an exhibition game, but my teammates and I will only focus on how well the ‘Boni driver does the ice.  (I think this is because everyone I know would love to drive a Zamboni themselves!)

                                                

As I step on the ice, all my anxieties, stress and frustrations are washed away.  The puck is dropped and only the game comes into focus.  The air is cold on your face until you start to skate, pass and shoot.  The game seems to end within seconds (when really it has been an hour)…and you all march back into the dressing room to re-live the great plays, goals and moments but also to complain about the referees and penalties.  And then you have to leave and enter back into real life…

 …unless you are a professional hockey player: a dream which only a few people can/have accomplished especially if you are female.  Women’s hockey is still gaining acceptance as equal to its male counterpart, the former currently in the age of infancy as compared to the latter.  Female hockey players continue to face discrimination, prejudice and ignorance based on beliefs that hockey is ‘a male sport’.  LAME! 

Anyone who actually follows both sides will undoubtedly recognize the talent, skills and differences inherent in both games.  While female hockey is focused on skill development and technique, their male counterparts place energy towards brute force/strength, including body checking.  Both of these variations are enjoyable and house talented individuals/teams.  The inclusion of female ice hockey in the Olympics, has given people across the world the opportunity to become acquainted with the sport.  As its exposure increases, so too does its popularity.  I can only hope that this trend continues so that my future hockey-playing daughter and son receive the same opportunities, exposure and acclaim regardless of their sex. 

Yesterday, the Hockey Hall of Fame assisted this dream.  Andrea James (Team Canada) and Cammi Granato (Team USA) were officially inducted into the hall; they were the first female hockey players to receive this honour.  This event is a symbol of re-education.  A commitment to affirming the love of hockey, the talented athletes participating in it and the individuals we choose to honour. 

I believe there will always be ignorant people who say/do/believe in ideals based on irrelevant characteristics like biological sex.  However, I view this event as the beginning of those ignorant comments/beliefs being silenced by knowledge, education and truth.

Do you agree with my hopes or do you think I’m living in a fantasy world?

 

NB: Here is some additional information regarding Angela James & Cammi Granato:

 

Angela James (born December 22, 1964) is a Canadian former ice hockey forward who played in the Central Ontario Women's Hockey League (now the National Women's Hockey League) and represented Team Canada internationally. Considered the first superstar of modern women's hockey, James scored 34 points (22g, 12a)[1] in 20 games over four women's world championships,[2] including 11 goals in five games in the inaugural IIHF World Women's Championships, held in Ottawa in 1990.[3] In 2008, she, along with Cammi Granato (USA) and Geraldine Heaney (CAN), became the first women to be inducted into the International Ice Hockey Federation Hockey Hall of Fame.[2] James is the daughter of a black father and white mother, she is the only African-Canadian to captain a national hockey team.

 

Catherine Michelle "Cammi" Granato (born March 25, 1971 in Downers Grove, Illinois) is a retired American female ice hockey player.

Granato was the captain of the U.S. women's hockey team that won a gold medal in the 1998 Winter Olympics. She is the younger sister of former NHL player and former Colorado Avalanche head coach Tony Granato, and a graduate of Providence College. Granato played hockey for Concordia University in Montreal, Quebec, Canada. In June 1997, New York Islanders general manager Mike Milbury extended an invitation to Granato to attend Islanders training camp.  Granato eventually declined.  Granato played in every world championship for the U.S. from the inaugural event in 1990 to 2005. She is also a rinkside reporter for NBC's NHL coverage and a color commentator for NBC's coverage of women's ice hockey at the 2010 Winter Olympic Games in Vancouver, B.C., Canada. She was named USA Women's Player of the Year in 1996. On February 8, 1998, Granato scored the first ever Olympic goal for the U.S women's hockey team.  She was dropped from the US National team unexpectedly before the 2006 Olympics in Turin, Italy, after being a part of the program since its inaugural season. Granato provided support for special needs children by starting Golden Dreams for Children Foundation. She also runs an annual hockey camp during the summer in Chicago for young girls.

Friends, Best Friends and Frenemies: It’s all in the looks

Today was Halloween at my office so in the spirit of the season, everyone was expected to dress up.  Since I like dressing up for Halloween, I began my morning riding the bus as Wonder Woman.  Now, most people stared or did double-looks…it’s not everyday you get to see Wonder Woman in person ;) As I sat down, I caught a young woman staring at me.  I waited for her reaction and then she met my eye and smiled. Suddenly, I was more at peace with my ensemble. Why does the approval of a total stranger please me? 

The answer is that she was a woman.  I do not prescribe to the belief of an invisible connection between every female on the planet by any means.  But I do believe we share some commonalities that cross all races, religions, ethnicities and ages.  All women are capable of conveying a plethora of emotion and words without speaking a single word.  (My bf, brothers and male friends all say I do this repeatedly throughout the day!)  The looks of women can make you feel confidence in one instance and complete anxiety in another.  However, whether you choose to show the effect these looks have on you is a different matter.

From my own experience, my girlfriends like to have talks face-to-face whereas guys are completely content carrying on conversations while staring at the television.  Why is that?  I think it’s because women’s belief in the power of facial expression.  If you say something to a group of your girlfriends, you know what their reactions are before they say a word.  You can be instantly comforted by the empathetic look given by girlfriends listening to your disaster date story.

On the flip side, women are capable of making other women (and men) feel horrible from a single stare.  For example, my lil bro always complains I am trying to kill him with glares even when I haven’t said a word! To be fair, he is right about that sometimes J

But I’m talking about the ‘girl stare down’.  It’s happens to me all the time and I’m sure it has happened to everyone else, too.  Here’s a simple scenario: you are meeting your friends at a bar for drinks, you’ve dressed nicely and feel great.  You walk past a table with two girls and their bfs.  As you pass, you see them staring at you and feel invisible daggers being thrown your way.  Suddenly, you feel like you’ve done something wrong or maybe you reconsider your wardrobe choice.  What is happening?  For some reason, you have offended them; perhaps it was your clothes or your hair or just your general existence.  And if their bfs are seen (or thought) to be looking at you, watch out!

Has this ever happened to you?  Or was my experience completely unique (which I doubt!) 

So ladies, I would like to leave you with the great wisdom of Dumbledore, “It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”  Translation:  just because we have the ability to convey thoughts with looks alone, we still have a choice about what message we convey.

                            

Inspiration from the Queen of Rock & Roll

When I think of the word icon, the name Tina Turner comes to mind.  My Mom introduced me to her music while I was still in the womb and I have been rolling down the river of Tina since that time.  Tina has tried to break every rule and succeeded.  She is beloved by people of every race, gender, nationality, religion and sexual orientation.

                                                                                

So why is Tina known as the acid queen of rock and roll?  Because she has proven herself to be the best in every way, shape and form.  She is one of the most beautiful women in the world; her hot legs alone cause steamy windows all over the globe. 

Tina’s beginnings are a complicated disaster.  Although she could always shake a tail feather, her parents blamed her for the demise of their marriage and for “tearing us apart.”  Even these horrible memories did not stop Tina from dreaming about leaving the Nutbush city limits and becoming a Proud Mary.  Every night she told herself “it’s gonna work out fine.” 

She is a role model for any woman who finds herself addicted to love.  Tina was abused mentally, physically and emotionally for decades, by her husband, and was strong enough to realize she was just a fool in love.  She realized she wanted to be one of the living and left to get Help!  Tina could have given up on this love thing but instead has shown herself to have open arms to the world.   

In the afterglow, Tina is now a grandmother and lives with her partner, just a typical male, in Switzerland.  She is happy and continues to please her fans, whether the river deep or mountain high.  With Tina, what you get is what you see, and although we don’t need another hero, she is most definitely one.

Even now, Tina continues to tour across the globe to various foreign affairs.  Every time she performs, she garners new fans who recognize that she is something special.  Simply put, Tina Turner is whatever you need: a private dancer, an acid Queen or the Goldeneye. 

She has taught me how to forget about backstabbers and understand that something beautiful remains once the heartache is over. With her help, I ask my lover to look me in the heart and be good to me. 

 I cannot say enough to show my deep respect and admiration for Tina Turner:  she is simply the best.

To tip or not to tip???

Over a conversation with my big bro, I was reminded of a ‘grey area’ topic- tipping. I say it is a gray area because people have VERY different ideas about the rules of gratuity.  People disagree over the percentage of a tip, the $ amount, the frequency of tipping, and the list goes on and on…

My bro works in the tourism industry on the west side of Canada.  He, and many other Canadians, has his wages reduced by his employer automatically.  Why would the government allow this to occur, you ask?  The government makes the assumption that these individuals receive extra income from tips or gratuities.  Thus, companies are allowed to reduce the base salary of these individuals and assume they will make extra income from tips/gratuities.

My bro brought up a great point, “How can people pay $8.00 for a coffee, without blinking, but stiff the guy who takes care of their $200 k car?”  He got me thinking of how crazy people get about giving tips to others.  And it is not just a Canadian-thing…I’ve travelled to many places and this is a global antagonist.

I understand that some ‘tipping’ fiascos are culturally based.  Each country has a specific way of tipping individuals.  In Canada, it is customary to tip 15% to waiters/waitresses, and various amounts to car valets/housekeepers and other tourism-based workers.  In contrast, in Australia, the prices contain a tip so you never leave extra tips.  While in Spain/Italy, once change is made, you take your bills back and leave the coins as a tip.  These tipping problems are easily solved through a quick google search before you leave on your vacation.    

But what about the other ‘tipping’ issues that are not related to cultural differences?  We all know that friend- the one who will literally argue over dimes and nickels.  The one who believes tipping to be a foreign concept…it might even be you :S  How can we ensure these individuals know the frustration, annoyances and stress related to dealing directly with customers all day long? 

Please don’t get me wrong- I am not trying to say tip everyone for everything in all circumstances.  I realize there is the exceptionally rude waiter or ignorant hotel clerk.  And I definitely expect anyone who deals with me to be courteous, friendly and helpful.  What I am saying is a little reminder.  Remember to show your gratitude to the individuals who assist you in various aspects of your lives.  These people may be working in a restaurant, at a valet stand or a hotel lobby but they all make a living the same way- tips. 

So the next time instead of ‘forgetting’ to tip the valet, remember that you didn’t think twice about buying yourself a $60 video game or $20 lipstick just last week.

                                                                                      

How do you solve a problem like bullies?

Lately, it seems that bullying is becoming more and more prevalent in school across North America.  I’ve heard so many people say “Kids are horrible” and then I think back to my years in elementary and high school…and I have to agree.  Kids are horrible to one another.  They tease, gossip, name-call and do things to hurt one another’s feelings.

 

While some instances have easily identifiable bullies and victims, not all stories are the same.  Here is one from my childhood….

 

I have 2 brothers, one younger and one older.  We have, throughout the years, had some intense arguments, fights and disagreements.  We have engaged in screaming matches, called each other names and ‘ignoring’ each other on numerous occasions during fights/arguments.  However, if ANYONE were to mess with one of us, you’ll be taking on the whole gang.  And they’d both agree with me if you asked them. 

 

So when my little brother (4.5 yrs at the time) came to me at recess, crying and covered in mud, I was upset.  I found out a kid in MY class (9 yrs at the time) had pushed him into the mud because he thought it would be funny.  I should note that the guy had a massive growth spurt in the summer and decided to terrorize anyone in his path for that year.  He was always a grade-A bully and a jerk but he had never bothered with me. 

 

I am a protective sister and so my anger took over.  I marched over to him and confronted the guy.  What did he do in response?  He laughed in my face and said my bro deserved it because he needed to learn to deal with stuff like that.  And you know what?  I agreed with his logic in trying to help others persevere in hard times.  Unfortunately, he didn’t agree when I pushed him in the mud so he could learn how to deal with “stuff like that.”  He cried but only his pride was hurt (I’m a girl and have never hit 5’1). 

 

Final thoughts:

 

1)  Bullies are just jerks who need someone to tell them off.  I was that person, that day.

2)  I have never felt bad for pushing him.

3)  I would do it again.

4)  My Mom/Dad took us for ice cream that night for dessert.  Family sticks together. 

 

So, do you agree or disagree with me?

Paws or Claws

I’ve always subscribed to the belief that you can tell a lot about a person by their pets.  And many people agree with this idea.  In fact, some people would argue that society is divided into cat and dog people. 

People who love particular types of animals more than others (dogs/cats/exotics) seem to share certain characteristics or lifestyles.  In my opinion, they are not simply names of animal groups but also groups of people.  There are ‘dog’ people, ‘cat’ people and ‘other’ people.  But how do you know which type of ‘people’ you are?  You have to examine the animals to know that.  Here are some general guidelines but there are ALWAYS exceptions….

      

Cats are known as an independent animal.  Most don’t want/need your praise or attention (although most purr for good back rubs).  They enjoy ‘hunting’ outside, grooming themselves, climbing, and giving serious evil eye if you catch them doing something bad.  The stare is like they are daring you to get them in trouble and hilarious to see! 

Bottom line- cats take minimal effort to care for.  As long as you fill their water/food dishes regularly and scoop their litter, they are happy J  If your cat is a ‘hunter’, they get their own food outside (Gross but true!).  However, at any given time, cats will demand more attention than normal.  Every cat owner I know just rolls with these mood changes.

Dogs are known as human’s best friend.  They are highly dependent, crave your attention, get super excited when you come home and need to be walked/groomed/care for all the time.  Most dog owners spend hours taking care of their four-legged friends.  And I’ve never met a dog who didn’t fall in love with a well-placed belly rub!  Dogs love to hang around with other dogs, chase cats/birds/squirrels, etc. and play with anyone who gives them attention.

Bottom line- dogs take high levels of commitment to care for.  Depending on the size/breed, owners need to walk/feed/groom the dogs numerous times a day!  And dog owners are constantly humbled by ‘stooping’ after their canine companions.  In return for all these added responsibilities?  A constant sidekick.  Any dog owner will tell you that if you leave the room, there will be four paws following closely behind.  And you always have a makeshift pillow when they curl up beside you on the bed or couch.

The type of animal you like highlights a part of your essence.  Deciding which animals appeal to you over others expresses some of your personality.  And it even says something if you don’t like either cats or dogs!

So which type appeals to you?  Minimal or maximum responsibility?  A constant sidekick or a self-sufficient comrade? 

     

What type of person are you?

 

**UPDATE--- I did not mean to offend any cat lovers/owners out there.  I love all owners equally!**

For the Love of the Blue and White

There are a number of myths out there about Canadians.  You’ve probably heard some of them.  For example, how all Canadians end every sentence with ‘eh’, we all live in Igloos and drive dog sleds instead of cars.  These are not true but there is one legend that still exists to this day across the Great White North.  What legend am I talking about?  The Toronto Maple Leafs hockey team, aka TML.    

The team is known to all Canadians, regardless of the part of Canada they are from.  Everyone in and around the Toronto area loves them and everyone else hates them.  I’m not exaggerating.  Ask any Canadian and they will agree with me.  Canadians are more polarized by the Leafs than they are regarding politics.  Friends argue, fist-fights break out, and total strangers become friends based on their mutual affiliation or hatred of the ‘Boys in Blue’.

Why does this team cause such intense feelings in Canadians?  Well, I can only give you my observations and understandings of the team.  I was raised an hour and a half outside Toronto and so was born into a family of TML lovers.  On the flipside, I moved to Ottawa for university so I have been exposed to the other side, the TML haters.  The team has quite an interesting history even for the people who don’t like hockey!

I don’t know how to explain the intense loyalty that fans have for their beloved Maple Leafs but here are some quick facts: 

-The Toronto Maple Leafs have one of the strongest fan bases in the entire NHL.  These fans are known as “Leafs Nation” and span over numerous generations, races and ethnicities. 

-The Leafs currently hold the record for the longest streak of sellout games, by an NHL team, having sold out every game in the Air Canada Centre since 2002. 

-In 2008, there were 2500 people on the waiting list to purchase season tickets. 

-And the Leafs consistently have the highest average ticket revenue per game across the NHL.        

Sounds like a great team right?  WRONG! 

-In 2002, Toronto was voted ‘The Most Hated Team in Hockey’ by Sports Illustrated.

-The TML were ranked LAST (out of 122 teams worldwide) in 2008 for rewarding their fans and ticket affordability.

-THEY HAVEN’T WON A STANLEY CUP SINCE 1967!!!!

-In fact, the last time they won their division was 1999.

So why do fans continue to pay crazy amounts of money to watch a team that continues to lose?  I think my brother says it best, “They have our hearts tied into their uniforms even if they starve us for wins.” 

Please come and visit this great country but if you do remember to keep your opinions about the ‘Boys in Blue’ to yourself… We take this particular argument seriously :P

  

For the Love of the Blue and White

There are a number of myths out there about Canadians.  You’ve probably heard some of them.  For example, how all Canadians end every sentence with ‘eh’, we all live in Igloos and drive dog sleds instead of cars.  These are not true but there is one legend that still exists to this day across the Great White North.  What legend am I talking about?  The Toronto Maple Leafs hockey team, aka TML.    

 

The team is known to all Canadians, regardless of the part of Canada they are from.  Everyone in and around the Toronto area loves them and everyone else hates them.  I’m not exaggerating.  Ask any Canadian and they will agree with me.  Canadians are more polarized by the Leafs than they are regarding politics.  Friends argue, fist-fights break out, and total strangers become friends based on their mutual affiliation or hatred of the ‘Boys in Blue’.

 

Why does this team cause such intense feelings in Canadians?  Well, I can only give you my observations and understandings of the team.  I was raised an hour and a half outside Toronto and so was born into a family of TML lovers.  On the flipside, I moved to Ottawa for university so I have been exposed to the other side, the TML haters.  The team has quite an interesting history even for the people who don’t like hockey!

 

I don’t know how to explain the intense loyalty that fans have for their beloved Maple Leafs but here are some quick facts: 

-The Toronto Maple Leafs have one of the strongest fan bases in the entire NHL.  These fans are known as “Leafs Nation” and span over numerous generations, races and ethnicities. 

-The Leafs currently hold the record for the longest streak of sellout games, by an NHL team, having sold out every game in the Air Canada Centre since 2002. 

-In 2008, there were 2500 people on the waiting list to purchase season tickets. 

-And the Leafs consistently have the highest average ticket revenue per game across the NHL.        

 

Sounds like a great team right?  WRONG! 

-In 2002, Toronto was voted ‘The Most Hated Team in Hockey’ by Sports Illustrated.

-The TML were ranked LAST (out of 122 teams worldwide) in 2008 for rewarding their fans and ticket affordability.

-THEY HAVEN’T WON A STANLEY CUP SINCE 1967!!!!

-In fact, the last time they won their division was 1999.

 

So why do fans continue to pay crazy amounts of money to watch a team that continues to lose?  I think my brother says it best, “They have our hearts tied into their uniforms even if they starve us for wins.” 

 

Please come and visit this great country but if you do remember to keep your opinions about the ‘Boys in Blue’ to yourself… We take this particular argument seriously :P

  

Caught in the Crossfire

Have you ever caught someone doing something they shouldn’t be?  I have and it makes you feel horrible!  I’m speaking specifically about catching someone cheating.  If there was ever a more awkward situation to find oneself involved in, I can’t think of it. 

 

I mean, I didn’t do anything wrong.  I was at a bar with friends, dancing and enjoying myself.  My roommate and I decided it was time to go home so we left the rest of the group.  As we walked home, we were passing by a couple who were in the midst of serious PDA.  And being the curious ladies we are, we looked over.  And stopped in our tracks...     

     

 

It was our other roommate’s boyfriend with someone who wasn’t our roommate.  Oh snap.  He saw us.  We saw him.  The girl (to her aide) seemed completely innocent.  And then he took off in the other direction with his ‘friend’. 

 

The rest of the walk home was filled with non-stop conversation.  What do we do?  Should we tell her and break her heart?  Confront him and make him tell her?  Leave it alone and let her find out on her own?  For me, there was only one answer…tell her ASAP.

 

We both thought she would want her friends to tell me something like that.  And she did.  And it did break her heart…and led to her dumping his cheating butt. 

 

But maybe we were wrong.  I’ve had some friends say we shouldn’t have involved ourselves at all.  And other friends have told me that they wouldn’t say anything because it might end the friendship rather than the relationship.  So were we right in telling her the truth or wrong for butting into their relationship?

 

To this day, I do not regret my decision at all.  But I have to admit, being in the crossfire between a cheater and their unsuspecting partner is awkward, complicated and drama-filled.  And I would much rather end my night of debauchery with some Mac ‘N’ Cheese and a big glass of H2O.

Question of the Week: Could you ever date a cheater?

As soon as I read this question, I began to recite the ryhme "Liar, Liar pants on fire" in my head.  And let's be honest, a cheater is a liar through and through. 

I have never been one of those girls who are "not the jealous type"...I've always been the girl who thinks her bf shouldn't do something to make her jealous.  And I am all about equality-the girls need to act the same way for their bfs!  Personally, I am not trusting by nature and it takes awhile for me to trust anyone but when I do, I am Ms.Loyalty!  Maybe this explains why I could NEVER date a cheater.  It's all about trust and respect.

I would never deny that cheating is a complex and multifaceted issue, it is!  But the bottom line is this: cheaters do not have enough respect for their partner or their relationship.  If they did, they would end it before starting anything with someone else.  Cheaters want their cake and their ice cream and their fudge brownies...you get my point.  And it's not fair to the other person one bit.

Being cheating on does unmeasurable amounts of damage to a person's self esteem.  I cannot count the number of friends I've known throughout the years (male and female) whose self confidence took a nose dive because their partner cheated on them.  And it took a long time for them to recover and feel like themselves again.

Bottom line- cheating is a choice.  If someone doesn't want to be with their bf/gf/husband/wife/partner then they need to end the relationship.  Ending the relationship (rather than cheating) shows character, restraint, respect and concern for the other person's wellbeing.  And those are a few of the character traits of someone I could admire and thus be involved with....

Breakups: Tears, Smears and Jeers

 

Breakup is defined as a “disintegration; disruption; or dispersal.”  Wow…There are a number of ‘scary’ words that any person could hear throughout their lifetime.  I would say breakup is definitely at the top end of the list for most people.  Breaking up is a completely confusing, emotional, complex, scary and sometimes maddening occurrence.  The individuals involved have history with one another.  That history makes everything increase in intensity, especially the feelings of both people involved. 

 

It is almost inevitable that every circle of friends (both male and female) talk about breakups.  And pretty much every person knows a guy/girl who has just broken up with someone, are in the midst of breaking up with someone or are contemplating breaking up with their significant other.  It is a major change in anyone’s life to go from being a ‘we’ to a ‘me’.  And while men and women deal with breakups in different ways, both sexes go to their friends for support, laughs and help in moving on from the breakup. 

 

For example, whenever girls are comforting their friends after a breakup, we down some girlie drinks, find a great dance club and grab some amazing food.  The night of dancing, laughing and hanging out with friends always gives the entire group a boost J

 

I think the reason breakups are so hard is because they involve two people who liked and/or loved each other at one moment of time.  There had to be good moments if you got together in the first place.  And there’s bound to be TONS of memories (both good , bad, ugly and awesome).  It is these memories that make the breakup so hard.  As you go through the ritual of breaking up, you have to sort through all those memories alongside your cd collections, trinkets and gifts from the other person. 

 

For some people, it can be a really hard trip.  I know some of my friends have spent days crying and not eating over a relationship ending.  These friends were usually on the wrong side of a one-sided breakup.  And the breakup was much harder for them because they felt blindsided, lied to and self conscious.  Probably a mixture of the worst feelings ever!

 

No one wants to go through a breakup but at the end of the day it’s usually for the better.  If one or both people don’t want to be in the relationship, it needs to end.  And the painful ‘breakup’ is worth dealing with to end a bad relationship.  Why try and save something that shouldn’t be saved?

 

In the end, I believe that life is too short to be sad or unhappy.  And because life is so short, your partner should be someone who makes you feel like your best self.   You should not be constantly in a state of upset, sadness or anxiety when thinking about your significant other.  Move on and upwards into creating a better life for yourself.  And while I may not agree with the idea that there are a plethora of “other fish” out there, I do agree that you deserve the “fish” of your dreams. 

 

Am I completely wrong about this or do you agree with what I think?