I've been with the love of my life for a bit over 3 and a half years now. We first started dating while we were in school and about a 6 hour drive from home. After about 4 months of dating, we decided that we wanted to get serious with each other, so we told our parents that we were dating someone. The semester ends and we're ready to go flown blown with our summer plans (after I finish pledging first). So he comes over to Brooklyn and has dinner with my family at a nice restaurant down the block, they love him. I go over to his place to have dinner, his mom questions me about...everything.
In the end, I thought it went great! But over a couple of weeks, I "collected" information about how his family felt about me. Everybody liked me, except for his mom. She thought that I wasn't good enough for him, she thought that I was too fat, that my family wasn't as wealthy as her, that I wasn't smart enough, and definitely thought that I wasn't as pretty enough nor as pretty as her 50 year old butt (UGH!).
But I tried not to give it a second thought cause I knew how his mom was. She's the type of person who thinks she's better in everything and anything, than everybody else, unless you can prove her wrong, that's how she's going to be. Over the past few years, I've ignored her the best I could, but there were a handful of times that I just couldn't take it anymore!!
When she met my parents, she was not only rude, but obnoxious, ignore my parents and me, and invited her cousin to come along. WTF?!?! (There were more worse events but let me just mention this one, or I might just explode in anger while writing this post.)These are the times where I just couldn't stand it, and believed that I would make my life so much better if I wasn't dating him, so I wouldn't have to deal with a dispicable person like his mom.
But after every situation like that, I would just brush it off and pretend like it never happened and make the best of it; because I was in love. I love my boyfriend, and no matter how much I hate his mom and vice versa, I will always love my boyfriend for the way HE is and how HE treats me. So in my opinion, NO, his mom should not be the reason for you to breakup with him. He did nothing wrong, it was not his choice to be born to a mother like that. Just love him, and if you ever get married to that man, feel happy, be happy, and remember, you'll be marrying him, you're with him...not the mother.
Ahhh. I absolutely know how you feel. Except in my case it's the father. It was so hard because he was so rude to me ever since the beginning I was introduced as his girlfriend. Thing is...he gave me the silent treatment. Whenever I would say hi or bye he wouldn't even LOOK AT ME or my direction or say anything. The most I got out of him was a nod, even when I greeted him happy birthday and paid my respect. And he was also rude to my family as well. It surprised me because my dad was best friends with a guy who was a friend of his so I thought they would hit it off but in a family gathering he totally ignored my parents. @_@ I wanted to break up with my boyfriend because of that reason too but my boyfriend treated me too well and didn't want to let me go nor did he want to let his father get in the way of our love. I really loved him but I had a fragile heart. I put up with it though and I let my boyfriend know about all my feelings. So yeah, let's not let anyone get in the way of our happiness! :)
Posted by: Joy | 08/12/2010 at 09:09 PM
Parents just want the best for their kids. And I feel the best way to go about this, is if their kids are happy, then they should be happy for them. Some parents are just hard headed and want things to go the way they want it to go because they think they're always right. I'm glad you guys are still together. As long as you guys love each other, that's all that matters. Best of luck to the both of you
Posted by: ricepatties | 08/13/2010 at 10:57 AM