As
with most adults, I've had my fair share of experiences in the world of
love. Once again, as with many adults, mine have ranged from bad to
worse to nightmare, and everything in between! Don't get me wrong, I've
had good experiences, too. It's a shame I can count all the good ones on
my one hand!
Personally, I've just begun the long journey of discovering myself. It's been a long road so far, and it's going to last the rest of my life. Hooray for that? Anyway, I've come to realize that finding oneself is a lifelong journey. Hey, my stepmother's still trying to find herself, and she's... well, let's not get into ages here. I'd like to live to see tomorrow!
There was one experience I had that happened last year. I fell in love with this one guy, and was under the notion that he completed me. Boy, was I ever wrong! Needless to say, I clung to him for dear life since I didn't know any better, and the relationship fizzled shortly after the year mark. Looking back, I've grown so much since that break up! I'm currently with an amazing guy whom I love dearly, and I've never felt better. I felt more like myself after leaving this other guy, and I learned how to enjoy life instead of suffering with him. I share many things with my boyfriend, but I still have a life separate from his. This is something I didn't have before, and I love every minute of it. You just feel so content and so able to trust the guy if he's right for you. I felt like I could never trust again last year. This new feeling hit me hard and took me by surprise less than a year after all the drama. To this day, I'm still shocked that I'm able to trust him so easily! It's a lovely feeling.
I do enjoy the single life, don't get me wrong, but I enjoy being with someone and sharing my life and passions with someone else more fulfilling. Everyone has a different idea of what works for them and what feels better, but that's where I stand. It's absolutely awesome to know there's someone there that you can share everything with, whether it be news, feelings, or even just life in general. Many people are afraid of commitment, but what's life without a little risk? Jump in the lake! Sure, you may think it's cold and uninviting, but it may turn out to be surprisingly warm.
What are your opinions on love? Does love at first sight exist? Is the single life really better?
Personally, I've just begun the long journey of discovering myself. It's been a long road so far, and it's going to last the rest of my life. Hooray for that? Anyway, I've come to realize that finding oneself is a lifelong journey. Hey, my stepmother's still trying to find herself, and she's... well, let's not get into ages here. I'd like to live to see tomorrow!
There was one experience I had that happened last year. I fell in love with this one guy, and was under the notion that he completed me. Boy, was I ever wrong! Needless to say, I clung to him for dear life since I didn't know any better, and the relationship fizzled shortly after the year mark. Looking back, I've grown so much since that break up! I'm currently with an amazing guy whom I love dearly, and I've never felt better. I felt more like myself after leaving this other guy, and I learned how to enjoy life instead of suffering with him. I share many things with my boyfriend, but I still have a life separate from his. This is something I didn't have before, and I love every minute of it. You just feel so content and so able to trust the guy if he's right for you. I felt like I could never trust again last year. This new feeling hit me hard and took me by surprise less than a year after all the drama. To this day, I'm still shocked that I'm able to trust him so easily! It's a lovely feeling.
I do enjoy the single life, don't get me wrong, but I enjoy being with someone and sharing my life and passions with someone else more fulfilling. Everyone has a different idea of what works for them and what feels better, but that's where I stand. It's absolutely awesome to know there's someone there that you can share everything with, whether it be news, feelings, or even just life in general. Many people are afraid of commitment, but what's life without a little risk? Jump in the lake! Sure, you may think it's cold and uninviting, but it may turn out to be surprisingly warm.
What are your opinions on love? Does love at first sight exist? Is the single life really better?
I totally agree with the keeping your own identity part! I've had so many friends lose themselves in relationships...myself included! I call myself a commitment-phobe and that's why!
I'm glad to hear your are happily involved- good luck :D
Posted by: Amanda | 08/13/2010 at 08:33 AM
It's tough to do, eh? I know I've certainly had a hard time learning to keep a separate life, mainly because anyone I've ever dated, I've felt was so awesome I wanted to spend ALL my time with them. Not entirely good, lol.
I've lost myself every time in a relationship, and this time I'm doing it right. I'm finding it slightly easier to do, and I'm not sure why. Oh well, it works! :)
It's understandable why you'd call yourself a commitment-phobe, I was too! I still sort of am... I'm a little apprehensive and I take my time expressing my feelings.
Thanks! :)
Posted by: Steffikah | 08/13/2010 at 10:54 AM